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I like you but you can’t be the one. Ever faced this flummoxing situation? They are your best friend. You like them, adore them, you love spending time with them but somewhere you know they can’t be the one. Quavered and tensed, not knowing how to come out of this mess, our generation fails to understand that there’s a difference between adoring someone and loving them. You can’t muddle the two. You may adore them but they may not be the ones. What if you couldn’t explain this to him/her. It’s really difficult to confess this to them when they have every hope of you two ending up together. Does it hurt to imagine what if this is termed as a betrayal? Why does every jovial relationship have to take such a treacherous turn! You simply can’t say no to them and bruise their heart nor do you want to say yes and get into something which is not meant for you.

Everybody talks about the person who fell for their best friend but nobody talks about the person for whom they fell. What undergoes in his mind? He too is on the verge of losing his best friend.

It is very hard to comprehend the exact moment when you realize that they are falling for you. It just happens. It’s not a nursery class topic where you can tell them not to color beyond the given boundary. Here, the colors just splash. They just do. No matter how thick were your boundaries.

You can no more maintain those eye contact with them, nor can you make a move that is too unrestricted…thinking what if they fall for you more?

When the other person confesses his/her feelings to you, it is important to keep it a secret. Creating a fuss about it may shatter that heart and also your friend. Understand that the feelings are completely natural. When you spend so much time with a person, hanging out, lying down together cracking jokes, understanding each other’s oblique expressions, and who are your perfect critiques, it is natural for them to develop such feelings. Don’t act absurdly all of a sudden. You were friends and you still are, that is important. However, it doesn’t change the fact that they are broken. Give them their space. Let them decide if they want to continue being good friends even after confronting the fact that you can’t be the one for them. If rejecting them as your lady love/beau was your choice then accepting you as a “just friend” must be theirs.

And if you two continue your journey then best of luck! You never know your friendship might get catapulted to greater heights!

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